When I was younger, I saw the girls (and the guys, for that matter) my age to be kids, which I was too.Older women were how I escaped that feeling."Michael isn't alone in his desires though they're not always reciprocated.I had about a year-long run of being semi-seduced by men to have them hightail it, like scared little bunnies.It was making me feel like crap, so I went to Europe, specifically Stockholm, and immediately got laid."For the time being, going to Europe is off the table for me, if only because I hid my passport from myself after a long-distance tryst with someone I'd met on a work trip went sideways.It never occurred to me in a serious way before this to lie about my age, even when I hit 30 or 35.
Still, the day after I turned 40, I decided to fire up an old profile and see what happened."Now that I'm 31, I realize that I just liked WOMEN.My current girlfriend is four years older than me, but I definitely see her as my equal.I had time, and if someone wanted to get up in my grill about having kids eventually, well, my mom had me when she was 38 and I turned out mostly okay. Summers, who is 54, is firmly in favor of skimming a few years off one's age, though always coming correct with current photos.But now I'm encountering divorcees and mid-life crises and men who themselves lie about their ages and cheekily confess, "Haha, just hoping you'd be so charmed by the time you clicked that it wouldn't matter! Like me, she straddles the digital divide; we remember a time before DOS, but not a lot of dating without the accompanying click and beep of a modem.